Archive | October 2012

Beyond Betrayal

By Jerry Price and Tom Roy

Tom and I are excited to tell you that Beyond Betrayal is now available in e-book and hardback format and soon to be in soft cover. Be our guest and read on to see what we are doing with the book and what others are saying.  And feel free to share with others. 🙂

Can anyone doubt betrayal is a part of our human fabric? We can see it everywhere in epic proportions, depending on   media coverage and personal experiences. Beyond Betrayal unpacks life after betrayal as authors Jerry Price and Tom Roy explore the twists and turns of a betrayer’s identity. Contending with the wounds everyone faces in recovering from the impact of betrayal, they also examine God’s prescription for healing. Drawing upon their life experiences and biblical insights, Price and Roy offer their table talks as a conversational approach to this unspeakable heartbreak.

They take an unusual view of betrayal, seeing it as a core condition of mankind’s heart or soulfulness that Jesus talked about.

Beyond Betrayal avoids the quick, easy answers in order to navigate tough issues underlining the hurt and encourages discussion with reflective questions. Price and Roy challenge all of us to rebuild trust levels out of a hope that doesn’t define anyone by the treachery of deceit.a man gaining the whole world and still losing his own soul, demonstrating that everyone possesses this tendency for self-betrayal. If we are to experience the wholeness of being that God longs for us to enjoy, we must address the issue of betrayal, a factor in the story of nearly every relationship dating back to the dawn of creation.


I hate this book! For me Beyond Betrayal was a hard read, not because Jerry Price and Tom Roy didn’t have something to say, but because what they said is true. Sadly and personally, I can attest to that! JUDAS ISCARIOT Betrayer of Jesus

With candor the book calls all readers to embrace our brokenness and experience the mercy and grace of God. A good read about all relationships.”  RON MANAHAN   Th.D.  President of Grace College and Seminary Winona Lake, Ind.

Tom Roy and Jerry Price speak clearly enough for a child to hear. This is a beautiful working out of life between two wise souls and they let us in on the conversation.  JANA HOLLAND  The Hollands!

Beyond Betrayal is a book for those who are serious about understanding our sin nature and its manifestation in the act of betrayal. MIKE VALENTINE Believer, Husband, Father, Grandfather, Trial Lawyer, betrayer

Jerry Price and Tom Roy have tackled the tough and potentially uncomfortable subject of betrayal head on. Their insight and illustrations have given me a better understanding of its scope and presence in my life. SCOTT SANDERSON Pro Sports Agent and Former MLB Pitcher

There is healing hope in the principles shared in this book along with pivotal tools in facing the betrayal of others as well as the temptation to betray.” MIKE MORFORD  CEO & Founder of

Tom and Jerry show us that understanding how we have been betrayed and have betrayed others is only the first step. The final steps to a life lived free of betrayal and it’s pain is neither quick or easy, but well worth it. J. DAVIS ILLINGWORTH JR Author of God of Hope, Former Senior Vice President Chief Planning and Administrative Officer of Toyota Motor Sales, U.S.A., Inc

Beyond Betrayal presents a new approach to a sensitive subject. You are welcomed into the living room with Jerry Price and Tom Roy as they discuss this all-too-common and always hurtful experience, betrayal. JOHN J. SULLIVAN  Author of My Betrayer is at Hand

Jerry and Tom together have written a wonderful book on one of the most common, overlooked and damaging topics in life. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is or has ever been caught in the cycle of betrayal. DENNY WILSON  Senior Pastor, Warsaw Community Church Warsaw, Indiana

I am so very grateful Tom and Jerry had these Table Talks and for sharing them – thanks be to God! SANDRA ROBISON McCARTHY Divorce Recovery Group Facilitator

Accepting Personal Responsibility

I read about a middle school in Oregon that faced a unique problem with a number of girls going into the bathrooms to put on lipstick. After doing so, they would press their lips to the mirrors leaving dozens of little “lip prints.” I guess they thought it was a cute thing to do, but as you can imagine, it became a nightmare for the janitors. Believe you me, I identified with that story because I was a janitor for a Christian H.S. in the Winona Lake, Ind. in the mid 80’s.

Finally, the Principal decided something had to be done. She called the girls and the custodian into the bathroom. The principle explained that the lip prints was a major problem for the custodian, who had to clean the mirrors, every day.

So, to demonstrate how difficult it was, she asked the custodian to clean one of the mirrors. As the girls watched, the janitor took out this long-handled brush, dipped it into the toilet, and scrubbed the mirror. That little demonstration had amazing results. The story stated that there have been no lip prints on any of the mirrors in that school since then. If you’re like me, you’re laughing or at least smiling now.

What this Principle did for those girls is a little bit like what James is trying to do for us in James 1:13-18. He wants us to think about our behaviors and to own up to them. He is convinced that if we understand a little more about the nature of sin and our bent toward depravity, we’ll be less likely to cozy up with it.

We must have a respect of our depravity if we’re going to be responsible for our modus operandi. It’s one of the major issues I see in Christian Culture keeping people from being real with God and others. If we don’t get this, there is a twisted Christianity that tricks us into thinking we’re okay when we’re not. Join me in the next few blogs as I explore this thought, would you?

People or Money

In this election year we hear the question, “Are we better off than we were four years ago?” Twenty three million people are out of work. Don’t worry I’m not trying to be political nor cynical. Poverty is real in this world. And poverty is an issue when James writes to his Jewish brothers in Christ.

I was in Sturgeon Bay, WI recently and visited the Inn At Cedar Crossing. Great bakery there by the way! I asked the owners how the economy has affected their business. They said, “It hasn’t gotten better but it’s not worse. No one is spending money.” These days are tough for many businesses and people.

Now let me turn this in another direction, would you? I remember a time in my life when it seemed spiritual to be poor and unspiritual to have money. I don’t believe that anymore, nor do I see the reverse of that thought because money is not the problem. People are.

Everybody has problems. Everybody faces trials. Everybody sins. Everybody suffers or will experience suffering, even if they live the good life now.

Read what James says about this.

Believers who are poor have something to boast about, for God has honored them. 10 And those who are rich should boast that God has humbled them. They will fade away like a little flower in the field. 11 The hot sun rises and the grass withers; the little flower droops and falls, and its beauty fades away. In the same way, the rich will fade away with all of their achievements. James 1:9-11 NLT

The neat thing about the gospel of God’s grace is that it has a leveling effect. To a poor blind beggar our Lord said, “Arise.” To rich Zacchaeus, He said, “Come down.”

James is no-nonsense but full of common sense. He wants followers of Jesus to know God’s love translates into building solid loving relationships in spite of tough times – like God does with us. So James talks about God’s blessing now and in eternity, when we endure testing and temptation.

12 God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.

Money comes and goes. People last! God last! Eternity last! In spite of tough times, what are your thoughts about people being God’s priority?

The Wisdom Deal

Years ago, I attended a blind singer’s concert in a small Midwest town. While singing and playing the piano, a lady came up and placed her hands around his eyes and said, “I feel led of the Spirit too….” I’m thinking, “He didn’t ask for that; His space had been invaded and her decision was arbitrary. Most of all I’m thinking, “Wow, how’s this guy going to handle this!?”

While the lady prayed for his healing, the blind singer blurts out and says, “I’m happy the way I am. If the Lord wants this for me, Okay, but I’m happy the way I am!” I admired the courage of this man to set the record straight.

As the woman somewhat dejected and embarrassed left him, he began to sing His Grace is Sufficient. To say the least, there was a lot going on for her, him and everyone witnessing his response.

In James 1:5-8, he says to new Jewish believers in Jesus, If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do. NLT

I don’t want to denigrate the lady’s desire to have this blind singer see. But evidently, just because she said “I feel led of the Spirit too….” didn’t make it so. To me, something was questionable about the woman’s modus operandi.

The faith in God alone that James talks about, the kind of wisdom he alludes to is always supported by facts in God’s Word and trusting Him for what we don’t know. Without that, what do we have?  Without that, what are we like? Without that, what dangers do you think we face in our modus operandi if feelings become our authority?

Roughed UP

Have you held a golf ball in your hand? Probably, all of you have. Did you know when they first manufactured golf balls, they made them smooth? But later on, it was discovered, that after a ball had been roughed up, they could get a lot more distance out of it. So, they started making them with a dimpled cover.

That’s just the way it is with life. It takes some rough spots in our lives to make us go our farthest. As much as I don’t like to hear that sometimes, it’s still the truth.

An Army Chaplain had a sign on his door that said, “If you have troubles, come in & tell me all about them. If you don’t have troubles, come in & tell me how you do it.”

I think James was solution oriented and had the heart of a counselor at the same time. His whole letter talks about making proper use of trials but he also addresses the wisdom involved in building relationships with anyone. He’ll give us a relational understanding to Modus Operandi, that is, if lasting change is happening in our lives.

For instance, one disorder in the early Jewish Christian assembly had to do with the tongue and how they used it to build or destroy each other. We’ll get to this in future blogs, but before we do, I noticed how James ended verse one with “Greeting!” That’s kind of like saying, “Man, it’s good to see you and talk.”

This isn’t a technique a sales person might use if they want you to buy their product. It’s not a way of keeping people at arm’s length to protect us from them. It’s not about making sure we’re elected if we’re running for a government office.

There’s something about a smile coming from someone who is truly excited about seeing us. It lifts our spirits, when we’re down.

If we were a golf ball, there will be times we might think James is roughing us up a bit. But he wants us to know he does care and is really excited to see and talk with us too. I’ll listen and interact with him and others when that is true.

How important is it to know that, before someone speaks truth to us about our Modus Operandi? Whether it’s me, you, or someone like James?

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